Monday, June 20, 2011

My name is Kamaya, and I am a stay at home mother

Wow! It's been 8 months since our last post, and in that time so much has happened. I would love to say that I have an amazing reason for not mentioning our comings and goings, but it truly comes down to the fact that I am not really much into the blogging world. I find the whole concept of connecting/reconnecting with far away loved ones wonderful, but personally, I wonder who really wants to know about my day; the ins and outs of a stay at home mother of one, plus a dog... But then again, when I was working as a nurse, I found my day much more interesting- worthy of a comment to share, worthy of my pride being built up by the things that I had done, worthy of sharing my mistakes with others so they could learn.

Why is it, then, that when my profession changes from nursing to raising a family that it becomes different? I know part is due to the insecurity of the position as a professional mom. When everyone asks, "What do you do for a living?" and the looks that follow when I say that I am a stay at home mom. Sometimes it feels like I am standing at an anonymous meeting where I am confessing my failings and addictions to the room. 

As a nation, we claim that we have 'freed' our women from the confines of the home, allowing them to share their knowledge and potential with the rest of the male dominated workforce in order that we may revolutionize our world. But when a woman desires to raise the children that God gave her, she is somehow failing the entire sex and enslaving them by her action. She is somehow being selfish, thoughtless and backward. Yet the truth of the matter is, motherhood is a profession that proves most difficult. Who really knows what a day in the life of a stay at home mother is like? What is it really like to raise a child from the beginning, seeing him/her through to adulthood and then some?

I challenge that it is more selfless, thought-filled and fruitful to invest oneself in the family that they participated in creating. It is fulfillment of one's responsibility and commitment; it isn't passing the buck to another; it is follow-through; it is following the path that God gave. 

Choosing this position, this incredible honor of raising my son, caring for my husband, taking an active part  in supporting our domestic church, took a lot of healing and leading by God. Staying at home is an incredible opportunity that, as a family during this day and age, I am blessed and am capable of accepting. We have made sacrifices for me to have this position, my husband working hard to provide for our family, but we make it work because we are following our dream and calling. I am lucky to have this opportunity to be a professional mom, where our house is not divided in order to keep afloat or alive. It also takes daily grace to get through the day and to stand with confidence when I say that I am a home maker, a child raiser and preparing God's child to stand as the future leader of our nation. Every day I change for the better: I gain more patience, love, insight to the amazing gift that God gave me in my husband and son.

So, if you care to learn about my favorite, challenging, breath-taking world, with it's amazing ups and downs, struggles, triumphs for the greater glory of God, read on. I claim no strength or wisdom of my own, only the grace, guidance, wisdom, and love from God.

"Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate."
Psalms 127:3-5 ESV

1 comment:

  1. Dear Kamaya, I admire and respect you for your decision to be a stay at home mum! I am also a little jealous and envious because I would have loved to be a stay at home mum too when Abby was small. Now I want to be a stay at home mum because the stress is so not worth it. I love you and miss you xxx